A snowball fight in Kashmir when I was 3
Taller than my imagination
Wanting to give your wife and children anything we wanted
A million sarees
A video game console
A robot with flashing lights
A string of pearls
Board games in Kohima
Playing horsie on your knees
Hearing your gentle voice tell stories
Remembering you call your daughter doolum
Your time every single day
Kindness every single day
Love every single day
Old monk and honeybee
The black sandals you wore
20 Luchis on Sunday mornings
Books. Steinbeck. Wodehouse. Le Carre.
Discovering you were the volleyball captain in school
Standing by your wife over family
The Corbett book you won for essay writing in school
Crosby Stills Nash and Young. Pink Floyd. U2
The day we bought the music system and played Money for Nothing
The song you loved...Vincent.
Because the world was never meant for one as beautiful as you
The long long drives. MLN 3. The Maruti. The Santro.
The winding roads through pine trees on the way to upper Shillong
Playing table tennis
The sports magazines you brought home
The conversations we had about everything in the world
The holidays to South India and Goa.
1 man. 1 woman. 3 children. 13 pieces of luggage.
The week travelling through Garo Hills with you on work.
Our first steps abroad... The border signpost with Bangladesh.
The visits to Delhi for school admissions
Second class trains. A summer that scorched the earth. Endless cups of tea
Travelling by bus to schools in Delhi
Our first movie theatre in Delhi
The first ice cream sundae we had at Nirulas
You encouraging me to study literature if that is what I loved
Discovering you had diabetes
The day you drove for an hour... Lost in Guwahati
The day you started forgetting
The day you first didn't get a promotion
The day you resigned
The other job you took and your frustration
The fight with your brother
Leaving home. Leaving Shillong. Leaving Guwahati.
The day I saw you reading a newspaper upside down
Let us talk of other things
Playing with your grandchildren
Seeing the kindness and love pass on to another generation
The quiet happiness and pride
The lack of judgement
The tolerance, patience and acceptance
And even today...
The kindness every single day
The love every single day
This isn't a requiem for you are not gone
This is a chronicle of the love and happiness
That you brought to me
And to everyone who knows you
You truly are special
And I hope I raise my sons the way you raised me